As a Mother, I like to give my children room to grow, and allow them to participate in interesting activities whenever possible. But I need to remind myself that I AM the Mother, and therefore have the right to say NO.
I was reminded of the need for values, and to stand by them no matter the pressure this week when my 15 year old son requested permission to go on an outing with two friends and their families on Friday – yes, missing school in the process.
As my husband was interstate, I had to deal with this one myself (I know I am guilty of the old ‘talk to your father about this’ routine…and letting him be the bad guy . I was very calm, but also very sure that allowing him to miss a day of school to go ride motor bikes was not the right thing to do. I am secure in my values and that of our family. In the end my son accepted my decision, and went to bed in a bit of a funk last night. I expected more of the same when he got up this morning, but was pleasantly surprised to find he was talking to me as normal.
(well, as normal as it gets at 15!!)
I need to remember – being a parent is not a popularity contest, and modelling a strong value set will provide them with more skills as an adult than any outing will. I havent won the war, but I have come out on the right side of this skirmish!