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Women Creating Connections

June 12th, 2005 · 3 Comments

I have been thinking a lot lately about community and connection.  About how women thrive when they have the chance to really connect with others. 

I talked about it in an earlier post Woman you are not alone… – how we can be validated by seeing that we are NOT alone – that other women are going through challenges just like us (even though all our challenges will be somewhat unique), and that connecting makes us feel less alone, less like the only one on the planet with this particular circumstance.

And somehow, knowing that, we can cope better. 

But there is more to it than that.  By connecting and forming a community of likeminded people, we can truly change circumstances… We can change not only our own lives for the better – but also have a positive and lasting influence on others.

In a post late last month, David St Lawrence talks about ‘The Singularity’ as coming change that "will occur as a result of the same incredible process that has driven change for
centuries:

Like-minded people finding and talking to each other
and then doing
something about it"

This is one of my dearly held goals – to help women connect in a meaningful way, in order to improve not only their individual lives, but to have a positive, uplifting effect on the lives of all who these empowered women touch!

This I know.  Thoughtful, intelligent, wonderful women coming together to make this world a better place to be by affecting each others lives in positive and uplifting ways cannot be bad.  Can it?

I believe that the synergy of connection between us creates a whole that is much greater than the sum of the parts.  And does that make each of us – the parts – much greater in our own right, as well?

I believe that a problem shared is a problem halved.  And that a joy shared is a joy doubled… don’t we all want to celebrate the wins of the people we care about, and don’t we want to ease their burdens by being there, supporting, caring…?

But I also believe that our society has drifted away from community and connection as a natural part of our lives.  We email people in our office rather than walk down the hall to ask them a question face to face.  We phone our families for a quick chat, rather than getting together regularly for Sunday lunch as our forebears did.  Our aunts and uncles and cousins are seen at family weddings and funerals – where we promise to maintain the connection – but then our busy lives happen again and we lose touch. 

We are finding it harder and harder to maintain friendships that dont involve work or our leisure time activities.  And we notice something is missing.  Sometimes we cannot even put our finger on what it is that is missing, but we know there is a hole in our lives that is not being filled by all our busyness.

And this isnt healthy – and I feel there is a swing back to connection.  It seemed to start around Spetember 2001… and is slowly gaining momentum.  I think this connection is being lead by women who are lonely for companionship, for a real communication with likeminded souls, and are more and more willing to give up something else in their busy lives to make time for it.  Who can no longer deny the empty space in their hearts…

So as a woman who supports women who do too much, as one who has had times in her life where her immediate family was basically all her community, and who never wants to go back there again… I am on a crusade to help women connect.  To help women support other women.  To help women change the world, one person at a time… (whether we get to the point of ‘singularity’ or not).  To encourage and inspire women to be the change they want to see in the world. 

Not in spite of their busyness, but because of their busyness…

Please leave a comment, or send me an email, and let me know your thoughts, ideas and suggestions.  What can you do today to connect?   Bookmark my blog, and come back to it often and check out what I have to say, and what others leave in the comments…  And if you think I am nuts – well, I guess you can let me know that as well as long as you’re nice about it…

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3 responses so far ↓

  • 1 David St Lawrence // Jun 12, 2005 at 9:56 pm

    I feel you are on the right track.

    In a rapidly changing world, where our local social networks can get shredded overnight by layoffs, divorce, job transfers, etc., it is vital that we reach out and establish friendships with likeminded people everywhere.

    Women, and men, need to find others with areas of common interest and communicate openly about problems and triumphs.

    As an aside, I feel it is also important to maintain control of these communication lines so that they are not disrupted by those who would seek to create dissension or to pervert the open forum into an activist Tupperware party Political action groups of all stripes will cheerfully recruit support from any group that seeks to address problems.

    Keep your own counsel and weed out trolls and spammers with no apologies.

  • 2 karen // Jun 16, 2005 at 12:27 pm

    David – thank you! Coming from you, these comments mean a lot.

  • 3 Caylie // Mar 27, 2008 at 4:27 pm

    Having moved to completely new towns three times in the past five years without knowing ANYONE I know the challenges this can present.

    We can all however help ourselves and each other to connect. When I moved to the town I currently live in I join the local running club. At the beginning I couldn’t run 100 metres but within ten weeks I could run five kilometres and had met a wonderful group of people. So many of the members went out of their way to welcome and support me. While I no longer run, I have made fantastic friendships.

    I encourage everyone to say hello to each other when walking up the street and to introduce yourself to your neighbour. You never know how much of a positive impact this might have on the other person’s life.

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