OK, this is one of my bug-bears and I can ‘rant’ on this for ages. Let’s see if I can limit myself today to just explaining myself, getting to the point, and providing some positive suggestions… please comment and let me know how I did?
Being an employer (well, my husband is), a manager, and a recruiter for many years, it never ceases to amaze me how much people feel they are ‘entitled’ to. They expect their employer to come up with the goods and give them all the benefits – before they earn them. Before they prove their worth as a contributor to the business.
What happened to asking – what can I do for you? before asking, what can you do for me?
And in our society there is a heck of a lot we feel we are ‘entitled’ to, and winge and complain and moan to death about when we feel like we are missing out or have been short-changed.
"I am intrigued by how much that one concept: "I deserve" has ruined people’s
lives. Many of the most miserable people walking the earth have a tremendous
sense of entitlement that keeps them that way. Have you ever noticed how much
feelings of being unlucky or being "always the one who loses" feeds upon itself
and creates more bad situations? This is a basic Law of Attraction and at the
core of Quantum Flow Bioenergetics philosophy:
What you give A.I.R. to – Attention, Intention and Repetition – will grow and
replicate itself in your life."
What you think about is what you attract into your life, and if you believe you are entitled to something, you will go on being entitled, without ever getting it, and just getting more and more miserable.
As Maryam says "any time I couldn’t get something I felt I "deserved", it made me feel even more
miserable, unlucky, downtrodden and unsuccessful. The more I bemoaned how awful
my life was, the worse it became." (read Maryam’s whole post – it’s fantastic and I couldnt have said it better myself!)
So how can we reverse this in our lives, and get attraction working for us, rather than against us? A few suggestions to get us started:
- whenever you hear yourself saying (even in your own mind) "Why Me??" – STOP! Maybe better questions to ask are, why not me? What have I been thinking about that attracted this situation into my life?
- Treat all the icky times as a growth experience, when you have surfaced from the ranting and raving enough to be lucid – ask yourself – what can I learn from this? How can I improve/change things to make this better, or prevent it recurring?
- Associate with positive people who dont have the ‘entitlement’ mentality (hint – you wont find them at a pity party
- Ask your employer, your spouse, your kids, your friends – what can I do for you? Do it with no expectation of return, just because you want to…
- Waking up each morning, set your intention for your day – make it positive, uplifting, full of energy, fulfilling… you may well be the happiest and luckiest person alive
How’d I do?