I was talking to a friend of mine who regularly reads this column, and she told me she almost added a comment to my Keep ‘em busy article. "You are delusional – woman!"
This is a woman who has raised three boys to adulthood, and knows, really knows, about raising boys.
So, I had to think about this. And re-read my article about keeping teenboy occupied with projects that interest him and turn a moody, morose teen into an engaged, interested, and happy boy-man.
And no, I dont think I am totally delusional. I dont think that the moodiness is not going to come back if I keep him busy enough. And I really dont think that I am over the hurdles of raising a man quite yet. I know I have a lot to go, and some days it scares the heck out of me.
But what this has shown me is that no matter how dark it looks, there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. I know, the next time we go through a rough patch, that I can trust things will turn around.
Because we got through this one. And that has given me a belief I was lacking previously.
And isnt that what we all need when times are bad? When the storms of life hit us (whether it is getting through teen years in one piece, or surviving redundancy, or major illness, or bereavement, or any of those other things life throws at us…) we need to have a faith and belief that the sun will come out again. That we can get through this, if we just put one foot in front of the other and keep going.
It reminds me of one of my favourite sayings of my teen years:
The darkest night is oft followed by the brightest day
So no, dear, I am not delusional, just a hopeless optimist who always wants everything to turn out rosy… But thank you so much for making me think about this from a different angle.
Anyone else got any comments on my mental state ?? (all welcome!!!)