The calendar on the wall in our kitchen is showing signs of
overload, and if something isnt on the calendar – it is just NOT
On Saturday my youngest child said – hey Mum, can I go to Monica’s
party? I said Yes, sure. And remembered somewhere in the deep
recesses of my mind that we received an invitation a million years ago
(well, early October anyway) to a girls party, and the RSVP date wasn’t
until early November so I just put it down somewhere (could have sworn
it was on the top of the pile???). He then says, It’s Today!
How’s that for creating guilt for Mum?
To cut a long story short, he wasnt terrifically fussed about
missing the party (thank goodness) and we had a discussion about what
to do with party invites in the future. First thing – decide if you
want to go. 2. write it on the calendar. 3. Get Mum (or Dad, let’s
not be sexist here) to RSVP immediately!
OK, yes this is a sign that I didnt follow those rules, and they
needed to be set – again. But it’s also a sign that our lives are
getting busier by the day, there are speech nights, graduations, work
and school parties, social engagements galore – and that’s just this week (heaving a big sigh…)
And I would like to reinforce to all that If It’s Not On the Calendar, It’s Not Happening!
This goes doubly for spouses who phone you at 5 about a function that’s on at 6, saying – "I told you about it!"
What are the social rules of engagement in YOUR house?