As you may have seen from my last post,
it is difficult, even for the perennially optimistic, to always stay
positive during the holiday season. I already succumbed to moments of
total insanity in the last two weeks, where I felt totally snowed under
(typical super woman syndrome, I am sure you have never felt that
yourself??) and slightly out of control.
Lucy says "Holidays are for celebrating what is truly important to you, your
family, and friends. Make it the holiday you want it to be and chances
are you will keep a positive attitude."
She lists five simple ways to keep that positive outlook happening,
including make a budget, avoid over-scheduling, get as much sleep as
you can, and spread your socialising in the months after the holidays.
But the one that resonated the most with me today is Lower your expectations – don’t strive for perfection, good enough is okay.
is the killer isnt it? The problem is, quite often we dont see
ourselves as the perfectionists we really are. We think we just want
to make it a happy occasion for the whole family, we want everyone to
have a good time, to not be stressed, to laugh and have – wait for it -
the perfect time.
Yes, it WAS lurking there, wasnt it? Perfect perfect perfect. The word should be banned.
It is valuable to sit down and think, really think about our expectations of the holidays. And to discuss them with others.
Think about it. Are you assuming that you know what everyone
wants? Are you striving to meet expectations that arent even there?
Are you trying to make things ‘perfect’ when in reality that isnt what
those you love think of as perfect? And most important of all – what
do you consider to be the most joyous part of the holidays?
Check your expectations – throw perfect out the window – celebrate and enjoy.