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I dont have time to be sick!!!

November 25th, 2005 · 4 Comments

Women who do too much, or those suffering from the super woman
syndrome, are oft heard to say "I dont have time to feel pain or be

Oooh – ring any bells?

I’ve said it.  I called a friend to task on it this very morning.  Sore shoulder dear?  Definitely NOT computer created?  Hmmphh.

I bet if you’re a woman with a thousand roles, a to do list bigger
than Ben Hur and a calendar that couldnt squeeze another minute in -
you’ve definitely said it.


Mothers, career women, carers all – we are way too busy to fit in
being sick or feeling sore.  And it doesnt help that if we open our
mouths and state our soreness (or an "oww" just springs out, unbidden)
the males in our life are telling us what to do to fix it.

(And if he isnt, honey, hang onto him – he’s worth his weight in Platinum!)

We battle on, regardless.  Kids still have to be taxi-ed, meals
still have to be prepared, jobs still have to be done,
washing-ironing-cleaning still must get done – s.o.m.e.h.o.w.  It’s a
very rare moment indeed that we allow ourselves to be, well, even,
maybe, human?

You know when you feel those first niggles?  The scratchy throat,
the twinge in your back, the niggly headache, the soreness in your
ankle, or maybe even just more tired than usual?

Those are warning signs girls.  They arent plastered in neon lights,
so we ignore them, dont we?  We dont have time to pay attention.

So our body may signal a little louder.  And then, when we still dont stop and listen, our body YELLS.

And we have no choice.  We are GROUNDED.  By then, of course, it’s way too late.  We have to pay attention because that is all we can do.

It is time for us ‘super women’ to notice our humanity.  When we
receive body signals, those first little whispers, we need to sit up
(or should I say – sit DOWN?) and pay attention.

What is it we are doing?  What is it that is creating the signals?
Are we taking care of our body – exercising, drinking enough water,
feeding ourselves appropriately, getting enough sleep, even – oooh
here’s a stretch! – pampering ourselves just a little?

And here’s the real cruncher – if we pay attention to the little niggles, and take a little more care then, often our body will respond well and we’ll be back in fine form in no time at all.  No productivity lost. 

It’s when we think we’re too busy to heed those signals that we are
grounded – and guess what?  All that busyness stops with a mighty bang
- and there is no productivity at all. 

Any little signals you’re ignoring?  Make the time today to reassess… before your body starts to yell.

Tags: Watch Out for Those Potholes · Wonder Woman

4 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Leah // Nov 25, 2005 at 11:48 am

    You talking to me Karen ??? I know that I am not SuperWoman (the whole underwear on top of the skin-tight lycra is not a good look for me).

    Now Wonder Woman on the other hand I can do. Now where did I put that magic lasso ……


  • 2 Karen // Nov 25, 2005 at 4:35 pm

    Leah, you know I think it was you who challenged me a couple of weeks ago to write on this topic. Are you feeling like I was zeroing in on you? did I hit a nerve?

    Actually I agree – Wonder Woman (as my category for this post) is much more my style also. Unfortunately, I cannot seem to locate my invisible plane…

    And just in case you thought the shoulder thing was about you – nope, someone else, who already recognised herself and declined to comment (seems I hit a nerve there as well:)

  • 3 naomi // Nov 28, 2005 at 9:34 pm

    Mum and I were just talking about this only a half hour ago on the phone… Two months after giving birth to that really cute baby you held the other day Karen (!!), and my body aches all over. I need to start exercising, but I am essentially such a L.A.Z.Y. person! But, I know I have to listen to my body, especially for the sake of my boys. I have seen my Mother over the last ten years cope with pain that should just not be… it all started as a niggle that she took no notice of. I am going to listen to my niggles – ’cause no one else can. I will learn from my mother’s pain, because it is no longer a niggle to her – it is visible to all, and she lives with it day in, day out. And it is SO sad…

  • 4 Joy Des Jardins // Dec 5, 2005 at 2:17 am

    I love this piece. It’s SO true. I’ve said many times…”I don’t have time to be sick.” Well, now I DO have the time…not working, kids grown and out on their own, etc. I’ve been notorious for taking care of EVERYTHING else…except my body, over the years; but I’ve been giving it much more thought and more of a concentrated effort…at least at times. I’m guilty of everything you mention…don’t drink enough water, don’t get enough exercise, don’t always eat what’s best for me. Through my kids’ concerns (and that’s where I pay attention) I’ve decided to really try to work at it. I guess just losing your husband to cancer jolts you into reality as well. It’s time to grow up a little, I think. Thanks Karen for this post.

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