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Finding meaning in giving gifts

December 14th, 2006 · 3 Comments

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One of my favourite bloggers of all time, Rosa Say, has a beautiful post at Talking Story about the talent involved in giving meaningful, appropriate gifts full of love.

She’s asking us to get inspired and be the "better gift givers which live inside us all".

"At 19 and 22 my son and daughter are the biggest challenge on my gift
list, and yet I know them better than anyone else. Thus, I throw out
that advice that you need to know someone better to be a better giver.
If they are on my gift list at all, I do know them well, and the
problem with an ill-selected gift is all about me, and not what I know
about them."

I had to think about that for a bit.  This year, the hardest person for me to select a gift for has been my youngest son. G and I still haven’t made a decision on what to get him, and his is the only name without a big tick beside it on my list. And yet, I think we know him better than almost anyone else – besides each other.

Rosa, I agree – it’s not what we know about them.

There IS a talent in giving meaningful gifts.

Having made the conscious decision to place each person on your gift-giving list, I find it very beneficial to take the time (before I go shopping..) to really consider what would be most meaningful from me to them.

I know sometimes I think of a perfect gift after a conversation at sometime during the year. This is when it pays big time to have a notebook and pen and record that idea – thinking you’ll remember it later is real wishful thinking.

I can also be hit by inspiration when looking through a catalogue – and see the perfect gift for someone on my list. But there are also many, many times when I have to stop, hold that special person in my thoughts and really focus on them as an individual to come up with ideas.

And yes, Rosa, there are times when I see something ‘appropriate’ in a sale, and grab it without a lot of thought about how it will be received at the other end.

It’s all about the reason why we place the person on our gift-giving list, and why we chose to give them a gift, isn’t it? 

If we give a small gift, chosen with care, filled with love and thoughtfulness, because we truly want to give the gift – then the meaning will shine through.

If, on the other hand, we give gifts out of obligation or expectation, then no amount of clever selection is ever going to make it the best gift they have ever received… is it?

Pop on over and read Rosa’s full post!

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3 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Rosa Say // Dec 14, 2006 at 7:39 pm

    Thank you Karen! You have added to my posting so thoughtfully and beautifully.

    In the thinking you describe here, “to really consider what would be most meaningful from me to them” I also find it helpful to simply consider why I appreciate that person as much as I do; gift ideas do come when I choose something that says I have noticed what richness they add to my life.

  • 2 Talking Story with Say Leadership Coaching // Dec 15, 2006 at 3:53 am

    2006 Talking Story Countdown!

    I am two days away from hiatus! —remember Our Talking Story Ho Ho Ho is coming! ??? So at this very posting moment, I’m working on preparing tomorrow’s Hō‘ike‘ike! As we have come to expect from our Ho‘ohana Community, the

  • 3 Cheesy quotes // Jan 10, 2012 at 5:54 pm

    True, it’s the thought that counts. I really love this article!

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