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Writing my own definition for Success

March 25th, 2007 · 4 Comments

One cannot do right in one
area of life whilst he is occupied in doing wrong in another; Life is one
indivisible whole. – Gandhi

I have been so full of fear about what success might do to my life and my family that I have been holding back. Afraid to go for it. Afraid to jump off the cliff in case I didn’t like what success brought.

I just didn’t know it.


It came to me in a powerful realisation early this week, when my monkey mind was going a hundred miles an hour down the path of change, and imagining terrible scenarios of me not being able to cope. All of a sudden, with a lurch of the heart and a filling of the eyes, I realised I was scared of success.

But that awareness was the key. Once I admitted (or discovered) that I was fearful of being successful, I realised, with a soaring heart and more tears, that I am free to write my own definition of success.

Success is different for every person. I have the ability, and the right, to define my success, my way.

I’m doing just that this week. I’m writing it down, and I also plan to prepare a dream board, and possibly even a music ‘soundtrack’ of what my success will look, sound and feel like.

Instead of being fearful about what ‘success’ (someone else’s version) may do to my family and my relationships – I’m rewriting the rule book and living life my way. This is going to get interesting!

What about you?

Tags: Noticing Miracles · Reinvention · Wonder Woman

4 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Chris Owen // Mar 25, 2007 at 4:48 pm

    There’s dancing! There’s Singing! There’s glasses Clinking and LOUD cheers down here in Melbourne that you’ve suddenly and unexpectedly bounded over that wall!
    The tears and fears are worth it. That feeling of not knowing what’s underneath your feet (if anything) as you slip into the inky water. And tah dah! just beneath your tippy toes is the strong safe platform that’ll carry you forward!
    YYYYAAAAAYYYYY. I’ll just go pour a glass before everyone else at the party drinks it all!

  • 2 Verna Wilder // Mar 26, 2007 at 9:20 am

    My daughter and I often make the general more concrete by saying, “And what would that look like?” I am SO looking forward to seeing what your success looks like, Karen. I imagine it swirling with color and dancing with vibrant energy.

  • 3 Karen Wallace // Apr 1, 2007 at 12:22 pm

    Chris and Verna, you’re so kind – both of you!

    Chris – thanks for being a part of that platform, strong and safe..

    Verna – “swirling with colour and dancing with vibrant energy” WOW!!! Yes, that is soooo right… thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • 4 Maryanne // Apr 4, 2007 at 9:40 am

    Hi Karen,
    It’s so nice to be back reading your blog. I love this post because I feel exactly the same way. I have so many ideas and things I want to do and yet, I don’t. Asking myself why often makes me come to a similar realization, I’m afraid of success. Failure I can deal with and very well I might add. I never stopped to think about what success means to me. Thank you for giving me an insight I consider priceless. Keep up the good work! Toodles, Maryanne

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