We’re told to think positive, to change our thoughts and change our life. And it sounds easy when we read it.
Only, sometimes the reality isn’t that easy. When we wake in a sweat in the middle of the night; or when we have that awful feeling in the pit of our stomach; or when our eyes threaten to overflow at some chance remark…
It’s those times we need a better strategy.
“Several weeks ago, I was experiencing lots of old conditioned thoughts churning around in my head. Triggers and emotions and doubts were coming up. A friend of mine told me that she would be praying for me – “holding watch.” She said, “Now, any time those negative thoughts come up, I want you to remember that I’ve got it. Remember that I’m working on it for you.” I laughed and said, “I’m outsourcing my worries, huh?”
I was. And it worked!”
What better strategy than to outsource your worries! It’s cheap and it’s effective. I can feel an experiment coming on…
“This was okay, but it didn’t seem quite enough. I decided I needed to outsource my worry. For the last few weeks I’ve been tearing my hair out because a business deal is taking far too long to close. I asked Honey if she would be interested in tearing her hair out in my stead. Just for a few minutes a day. She thought it was a wonderful idea. “I will worry about this every day,” she wrote. “Do not worry.”
The outsourcing of my neuroses was one of the most successful experiments of the month. Every time I started to ruminate, I’d remind myself that Honey was already on the case, and I’d relax. No joke—this alone was worth it.”
Hmmm. You need to go and read the whole chapter here… the bit about outsourcing his relationship issues made me laugh out loud!
Can you outsource your worries? Can you pass the candle to someone else and have them do the work for you… so that each time that particular worry comes up, you can say to yourself – “it’s OK, I no longer have to worry about that! It’s handled”?
Will you join me in an experiment for the next week or two? Leave a comment or send me an email (theclearingspace@gmail dot com), let me know the worry you’d like me to handle (remember – no worry is insignificant – I won’t judge!) and outsource it to me. I’ll hold the candle, and do the work for you.
All I ask is two things:
- Every time the worry crops up in your mind, you remember that I have it
- Let me know what happened – does outsourcing your worries work for you? (I’ll be intensely curious to know!!!)
Ready to experiment with me? What have you got to lose??