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Clearing Space and Expectations

September 3rd, 2008 · 6 Comments

Once again, I’m learning lessons about how my mind works.

When you stop doing something you’ve been doing for as long as you can remember, (in my case, working as an employee), you fully expect to free up these huge gobs of time every week. And in those enormous hours, you’d be justified in thinking you’d get all those things done that you never had time for before. Wouldn’t you?

Hmm… so why isn’t it working out that way?

It’s always been my ‘theme song’ to clear space in my life to let the good things in. And I know that the universe abhors a vacuum – if you clear space, something will always rush in to fill it.

What I hadn’t experienced before is the speed and sheer ferocity with which the space gets filled!

Last night, as I was feeling once again like I was waaaay behind as I shovelled yet another load of whiltes in the washing machine, I realised my problem.

I had ‘expectations’.

In the planning for my ‘retirement’, I may not have been able to imagine my days without work, but what I was able to do was develop this huge list of Things To Get Done When I Retire. And that list? Whew – if I work at it solidly for the next 10 years or so, I may make a dint.

Did I really think that all that would get done, quickly, completely and with ease within the first four weeks and then I could relax and get down to the serious business of growing a business?

The problem isn’t the list.

It’s my expectations that freeing up some time was miraculously going to get this all done. Especially when the universe, in it’s infinite wisdom, has decided I need to do other things.

It is so time to toss out those expectations and start developing a workable and inspiring lifestyle. With plenty of room left in for the little things that always crop up.

A Clearing Space Moment

What unrealistic expectations are you beating yourself up about? Are you doing the best you can do with what you have?

Then why are you beating yourself up about it?

Tags: Heart and Home · Reinvention · Watch Out for Those Potholes

6 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Karen Swim // Sep 6, 2008 at 11:08 am

    Wow, your post hit home. Last week I was exhausted and frazzled. I realized that I had created daily expectations and when unmet I beat myself up about it. As I planned this week I vowed to pare down “the list” and re-learn to go with the flow. My resolve was sorely tested as Murphy’s Law chased me from Monday to Friday. LOL! Thank you so much for sharing your own struggles and solutions.

  • 2 Chris // Sep 8, 2008 at 10:54 am

    This reminded me of when I came home from hospital with a baby first time around. I had figured that they feed every 4 hours and sleep in between how hard can it be?
    Far out! Was there speed and ferocity in upending that little expectation!
    I love lists but sometimes we should just bloody write em so we can burn em!!!

  • 3 karen // Sep 9, 2008 at 5:03 pm

    Karen – it is lovely t0 hear from you. It is also wonderful when an experience I write about hits home with someone else! I do hope the list is behaving itself better this week, and Murphy is taking a well-deserved time out. Thanks!

  • 4 karen // Sep 9, 2008 at 5:06 pm

    Ahhh… Chris. What you share is very similar to my experience with first time parenthood. I remember being a very in-control career woman until I became a mother! It seems to be something we all need to learn for ourselves – nothing anyone tells us prepares us for the reality.

    Here’s to burning the list – maybe it’s the ‘noughties answer to a burned bra – the next step in our liberation??

  • 5 Ariane Benefit // Sep 12, 2008 at 11:25 pm

    You sound like you’ve been peeking in at my life the last year! I’ve had to release so many expectations of myself I could fill 3 lives. LOL You are such a joy…thanks for sharing!

  • 6 Pete Aldin // Sep 25, 2008 at 6:04 pm

    Ok, ok, God. I get the message.
    ;) [thanks Karen!]

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